The source does not ask for the way

Photo with Bert Hellinger, Herzberg near Aarau, 2005

Vor über zwanzig Jahren bin ich Bert Hellinger begegnet – dem Begründer der Familienaufstellung.
Im Rahmen einer Ausbildung durfte ich ihn persönlich kennenlernen. Ich war jung, voller Fragen – und tief beeindruckt von der Kraft seiner Arbeit.

Fotos mit Teilnehmenden waren für ihn selten. Doch bei mir sagte er: «Ich habe ein gutes Gefühl.»
Dieses Bild steht für mehr als einen flüchtigen Moment. Es trägt die Erinnerung an eine frühe Resonanz – an ein inneres Erkennen. Für mich zeigt es mehr als nur ein Treffen: Es erinnert mich an die klare Verbindung zu dem, was damals in mir in Bewegung kam. Ich sah ihn wirken – und spürte unmittelbar: Diese Arbeit führt tief. Sie kann überraschend direkt zu innerem Frieden, zu Wandlung, zu mehr Leben führen.

And yet – over the years, doubts arose.
I read critical voices, heard about controversies. Suddenly there was uncertainty. Not towards the method – I had always experienced constellation work itself as effective and healing. But I became cautious regarding Bert Hellinger as a person. I asked myself: Can I publicly stand for this work without being put into a box?

So I withdrew.
I stopped facilitating constellations.
The source within me remained perceptible – but it no longer flowed.

Many years later, something decisive happened.
I read his autobiography, which he wrote shortly before his death at over ninety years old. While reading, my heart opened again. I found answers to questions that had accompanied me for a long time. I understood better why he was often criticised – and what his stance towards that criticism was. Something inside me became clear. The old ambivalence gave way to a quiet yes. I was able to take him back into my heart. And with that, also the source from which his work had been nourished.

This source – for me, it is an inner knowing that reaches deeper than thinking or intention.
A quiet force that guides us when we give it space.
Bert Hellinger was, for me, someone who surrendered to this force.

When I felt the connection to this source – and to him – again, my own strength returned.
I began to develop learning constellations, to bring them into schools – and I noticed: the flow was back.
What had been blocked for so long began to move. Not because I had planned it – but because I was able to connect again.

The source does not ask for the way.
It knows where it wants to go.
I am grateful that I can listen to it again.